Baby Size: According to “The Bump” baby is the size of a coconut. According to our ultrasound this week he’s over 1lb and measuring two weeks ahead.
Weight gain: 16lbs
Maternity clothes? Yes! Plus yoga pants.
Belly Button in or out? Out
Best moment this week: Seeing our baby on the ultrasound, and Pat finally feeling baby kick on the outside.
Miss Anything? Being able to comfortably bend over my son’s crib.
Movement: Movements are getting MUCH stronger. He also gave me a swift kick right to the bladder this week. It was not amazing.
Food cravings: Veggies. In everything.
Looking forward to: Having some idea of where we will be living when baby arrives.
I wanted to talk about weight in pregnancy again because it just feels like such a roller coaster of an issue. Medically speaking the information is out there. If you are of average weight, the recommendation is that you gain 25-35lbs. Underweight (BMI less than 18.5) 28-40lbs. Overweight recommendations are 15-25lbs and obese recommendations are 11-20lbs. This is easy enough to find. What if you don’t fall perfectly into these numbers though, or your trajectory looks like it will fall outside of these numbers?
This is what I usually struggle with. The emotional toll of hitting a perfect 10lb range. With my first-born I lost 10lbs in the first trimester and beginning of the second trimester. It is still unclear to me if this weight gain is supposed to be net weight gain or total weight gain. That would make a big difference. Also, BMI is not the most accurate indicator of someone’s overall health. BMI could indicate that someone is overweight when in reality they are extremely muscular. As someone with a lot of muscle and perhaps a low body fat percentage, they likely would need to gain more weight because they need to increase their fat levels as the body prepares for breastfeeding.
Here’s how my mental struggle has gone: with my first I lost the 10lbs in the beginning and was stressed out the whole rest of the pregnancy that I wasn’t gaining enough weight. I didn’t have any net gain until I was about 19 weeks pregnant. He always measured healthy/large so he was getting everything he needed. This time, despite my belly growing large much quicker this time, I did not have much weight gain until sometime in my second trimester. Again, I worried that I was not gaining enough weight, even though I didn’t lose weight this time. Then I finally started gaining weight and there were a few weeks where I put on a lot of weight. That made me worry I was gaining TOO MUCH weight. My diet had little change as I continued to eat real food and focus on hydration. My workouts remained similar, though my mileage increased slightly over the last few weeks. So despite knowing I am healthy, and another boy who is measuring in the 98th percentile, I worried I was gaining too much weight. There does not seem to be a happy medium, but I guess that’s just to get you ready for motherhood. There’s this constant worry that maybe you’re doing something to harm your child – at least for me.
If you are worried about your weight, just ask your doctor. Once each pregnancy I have asked my doctor if my weight gain is fine and in both instances they assured me that my weight gain is right where they would like to see it. Otherwise I focus on getting as many nutrients I can for my growing baby, and getting around 30 minutes of exercise most days. This includes lifting weights three times per week, 4 easy runs per week, and walks sprinkled throughout (on top of chasing and carrying a toddler around). Knowing that I am staying healthy and doing my best to keep my baby healthy reduces the worry for me. My body will build this baby as it sees fit. My job is to simply provide the best environment for my body to do what it is designed to do.
If you find yourself stressing one way or the other about your weight gain, just know you are not alone. Work to provide the best environment that YOU can and know that your body was designed to do this.