Baby Size: According to “The Bump” baby is the size of a pomegranate.
Weight gain: 3.5lbs
Maternity clothes? Still too big for regular clothes, still too small for maternity clothes. Leggings and long shirts for the win!
Belly Button in or out? Out
Best moment this week: Running 5 miles and eating a lot more nourishing meals. While I know my energy will continue to increase, the moderate influx of energy has been nice!
Miss Anything? Not feeling 35 weeks pregnant after doing some extra cleaning around the house! Yesterday I did my workout then spent 2 hours taking down decorations and cleaning the house. My calves were sore the rest of the day and I woke up today still exhausted. This was a third trimester issue for me last time!
Movement: Still just a few flutters occasionally.
Food cravings: I have thankfully just been craving hearty, vegetable filled meals.
Gender: We should find out in about 2 weeks!
Looking forward to: Tomorrow’s check-up! I hope they use the Doppler so we can hear the heartbeat!
I want to talk about body image during pregnancy, and I hope that I am able to articulate my thoughts in such a way that other moms can relate without feeling down on themselves or thinking that I feel really bad about myself. I am at the point in pregnancy where I definitely have a little bump, but I cannot really fit in maternity clothes yet. Despite that, none of my regular clothes fit. I also have gained fat in my legs, hips, and arms. That is a GOOD thing, but sometimes it feels uncomfortable when you don’t really look pregnant yet and you are not feeling a ton of movement yet. Much of this extra fat is likely only noticeable to me. I am still at the point where I am unsure if the whole pregnancy is in my head (please tell me other people go through this phase).
I am essentially in that phase where I am no longer just bloated. I am gaining weight, as I should be, but the bump isn’t quite prevalent. It ALWAYS makes me feel sad when a pregnant woman says she looks or is fat. We are not fat. We are growing a human and the baby needs us to have fat reserves. Whether or not you decide to breastfeed, your body is gearing up for breastfeeding, meaning you need fat reserves for good, healthy milk. If you begin pregnancy at a healthy weight and gain the recommended 25-35lbs for someone starting at a healthy weight, 5-10lbs of the weight you gain is stored for breastfeeding. So, if you are starting underweight, your body may even store extra fat for breastfeeding.
Some people start in a healthy weight range, they eat really healthy, stay active while they can, and they still gain over the recommended weight. You know in your heart if you are truly being healthy. So if you are, it is infuriating, but roll with it. If this is you and you have not had baby yet, but you’re frustrated that your diligence is not preventing excessive weight gain, don’t throw in the towel. Keep focusing on eating well, because it really is so helpful for your baby. I have seen so many women who really are genuinely healthy people who gain 40+ pounds in pregnancy. It is simply what their body needs, as frustrating as it is.
To be honest, I am on the other end of the spectrum when it comes to the scale. This may seem like a luxury, and maybe some people love this, but it is always scary for me. I felt like baby was going through a huge growth spurt this week and I felt like I was stuffing my face 24/7. I upped my protein and fat intake to ensure satiety, and also to ensure good nutrients for baby. I also was sure to take in lots of carbohydrates, including tons of vegetables. I feel like I have not stopped eating all week and I only increased exercise by 1 extra mile on my run Saturday. Otherwise, my activity level has been the same. When I jumped on the scale this morning and saw that I was down 2.5lbs from last week and at a total gain of 3.5lbs total I started to panic. I am sure I was just a little bloated last week, or something. I am sure all is well, as my belly does seem to be continuing to grow despite my weight staying the same. This is yet another example of why I don’t like to rely on the scale as a gauge for health. I have a doctor’s appointment tomorrow so I will speak to the doctor about it.
Whether you see a woman who has gained a lot of weight, or not much weight, be kind with your words. I know I wrote about this with my son, but I think it is important to remember that you do not know what that woman is going through. Most women just want to be healthy for their kids. Even if they are taking an approach that does not work, they are trying. When you comment to a woman on how her body does not look how you think it should look at a certain point in pregnancy, it is honestly scary for the pregnant woman (in my opinion) and assumes that you care more about her baby than she does. I promise that you don’t. She cares. She is trying her best. I think the baby’s father and woman’s doctor are the only people who should be having these weight and health conversations with her.
All of this to say, I think that it is OK to acknowledge that our body is changing when we are pregnant. I also think it is OK to not love that in between phase when we don’t quite look pregnant but we are definitely packing on the necessary pregnancy pounds. I think it’s important to acknowledge that these things are happening and it’s not always easy. I also think it is important to know that if you are eating real food most of the time, you are not eating twice as many calories as you were pre-pregnancy, and you are moving for at least 30 minutes most days, your body will gain the weight it is supposed. You are not fat, – you are simply growing a human. Our bodies were designed to do this, and we should learn to trust that! It is hard to see the extra fat in places that are not our belly, but that doesn’t mean our body is not going to put it to good use for the health of our baby!